Week Five Post: Chapter 15

There was a section in chapter fifteen that when I read it, felt like an exact explanation of my relationship with my parents. Under the section "Turning points in family relationships", there is a term gendered closeness perspective. What this basically says is that women express affection through hugging, kissingm and saying "I love you." Men on the other hand, show it through shared actiities and financial support. This is exactly how my parents are. My mom and I are very open about saying I love you, whereas my dad and I never say that. My dad on the other hand likes to fix my car for me and give me money for gas. The message is still very clear in both sides, just expressed quite differently.

Week Five Blog: Chapter 15

The topic that I’d like to share with my classmates this week is on patronizing speech. In our textbook it is defined as the use of exaggerated intonation, high pitch, less respectful terms of address (ie honey, sweetie), infintalizing content, and emotional tone as well as overparenting and demeaning non verbal behavior. I thihnk we have all experienced this and I have one examples that I can share. One is a work reference. There is this girl in my department at work that calls everyone “honey” even if they are older or higher in status than her. I think that she thinks it is endearing but it really isn’t, it’s patronizing and makes you feel lower than her somehow.

Week Five Post: Chapter 13

The concept that stuck with me in chapter 13 was the one of intrapsychic conflict. This is when a person experiences internal conflict without expressing disagreement with others. I think that everyone can relate to this concept because to me it sounds like the definition of thinking. Everyone thinks about their problems, hopes, fears and dreams. Intrapsychic conflict is just the process that happens internally, before you tell anyone. The book uses breaking up as an example because you usually think about the breakup before bringing it up to your boyfriend or girlfriend.